Comments on: RELATIONSHIPS :: Why Do Gay Men Cheat?

By: Chris Greenway

Chris Greenway — Thu, 03 May 2018 13:23:06 +0000

I was cheated on 5 weeks ago and yes in same way but only he got drunk and then told me. So he did it the coward way.
Life’s not fair. But we have to carry on.
Not only that after being together for 11 years and married 6 makes it even harder.

By: David Holman

David Holman — Wed, 21 Oct 2015 06:06:29 +0000

Kamir, to answer your question from more of an anthropological, biological and evolutionary perspective, as to why “men cheat” not just why “gay men” cheat, you must look beyond the idea that “sex and love or sex and loving relationships” are somehow mutually exclusive, which for many people, they are not. It is worth noting here that recent discoveries within human genome specifically the X chromosome and those genetic markers contained within it, as well as the observations and studies of spermatozoa in the human male prove what anthropologists have known for quite some time; humans by evolutionary standards are not a species that are genetically monogamous. Monogamy is in fact a “relatively new concept”(by evolutionary standards)and is largely associated with “monotheistic and patriarchal religious ideals” that claim that sex beyond the intent to procreate and sex simply for the enjoyment of sex, is/was somehow evil. One need only look at the ancient Egyptian, Greek, and Roman cultures to understand that when there was a belief in multiple Gods and Goddesses, sex for enjoyment and not simply for procreation was not discouraged but actually considered to be a normal part of life. More recently biological studies confirm that “sperm competition” and even “mate guarding” are specifically designed evolutionary “defence mechanisms” contained within the spermatozoa of human males to essentially ward off and fight “foreign invading sperm” often (from multiple males) to prevent the sperm from another male from fertilizing the female egg. This means that “sperm competition” is genetically part of the human condition, so much in fact that it has imprinted on the human genome. Modern monogamy on the other hand is still largely today a bit of a myth as it has left no significant marker within the human genome. (One need only look at the number of women that have multiple children from multiple partners of “differing baby daddies” quite common these days to understand that our ideas may have changed but much of our behaviours have remained as they were in the past). If you were to examine the 1231 +cultures contained in the Ethnographic Atlas Codebook, 84.6 percent of relationships within these cultures are classified as polygamous, 15.1 percent as monogamous, and 0.3 percent as polyandrous (women having multiple husbands). So perhaps instead of looking at the question in the way you have posed it you may consider rephrasing it and ask a different question altogether? For Example: “Why do some gay men choose monogamous relationships, when gay sex is purely for enjoyment and intimacy as procreation is off the table and men have a genetic predisposition to spread their seed around”? Just a thought. I hope this is helpful to you.

By: jackson

jackson — Tue, 01 Sep 2015 18:25:33 +0000

My last post may seem harsh. However I am sick of gay men portraying themselves in a loving relationship only to find out time and time again they have betrayed their partner. I am sick of them comparing themselves to straight men ONLY when this serves them and I am sick of them making their excuses up for their deceptions and hurt they hurl on their partners because of their apparently uncontrollable desires to check out some strangers private parts. Not all but their is an absolute sickness that has evaded gay men….called selfishness and selfcentredness.

By: jackson

jackson — Tue, 01 Sep 2015 18:18:10 +0000

Most gay men cheat because they have absolutely no impulse control. also so many are so immersed in the gay culture that they soon come to believe it is normal. Just listen to the crap that comes out of their mouth….constantly talking abou the size or shape of some strangers genitals etc. What could be normal about deceiving, lying, cheating, sneaking around just so you can touchy touchy feely feely some other dudes-strangers genitals is beyond me. I personally think gay men are trying to fill a void by and in some sick way trying to obtain from another dude what they fell is lacking in themselves. This skulking around washrooms and slithering around parks is depraved. Now on that note I do know gay men that have matured and operate like civilzed humans……not the ones that are having sex with anything that moves and therefore become reservoirs for sexually transmitted disease.

By: Mike

Mike — Fri, 15 May 2015 17:20:21 +0000

most gay men cheat because they only think with their dick